‘The smallest of gestures tend to have the most meaningful of impacts’

To mark International Men’s Day on 19 November we thought it timely to spotlight men’s mental health. Brandon Wood from Sunflowers Suicide Support suggests ways of supporting friends who may be in need.

Across the UK, suicide remains one of the leading causes of death among men aged 20 to 49. Despite increasing awareness, many men still find it difficult to talk about their mental health due to deep rooted cultural expectations around strength and self-reliance, leaving many men to cope alone when support could make the greatest difference.

Recent research from the Office for National Statistics indicates that there were 171 deaths from suicide in Gloucestershire between 2022 and 2024 – with around six deaths per 100,000 women, but over double at 14 per 100,000 men during the same time period.

Every single one of us can play a part in looking out for the men in our lives, whether they’re friends, relatives, or colleagues, and actually it is often the smallest of gestures that tend to have the most meaningful of impacts. Simply asking someone how they’re really doing, and being willing to hear the answer, can remind somebody that they’re not alone and that what they’re feeling matters.

Listening without interrupting, creating an environment where open and honest conversations can take place, and offering support without judgment can create an environment where people feel able to talk and share their experiences. Talking really does help create suicide safer communities, and it directly contributes to suicide prevention.

Look out for the men around you and be aware of the recognisable warning signs. Changes in mood or behaviour, social isolation, or a loss of interest in hobbies, can all be indicative of declining mental health.

If you are concerned about someone, do not be afraid to reach out. Asking directly about suicidal thoughts does not put the idea in someone’s head, but it can open the door, giving permission to share how they are feeling.  This in turn can help encourage them to seek professional support.

By creating a culture where vulnerability is accepted and seeking help is viewed as a sign of strength, not weakness, we can challenge harmful stereotypes and reduce isolation. Each small action, repeated consistently, can contribute to a broader culture of support and understanding, helping men feel able to reach out before they reach the point of crisis.

Brandon Wood is the Service Delivery Team Leader at Sunflowers Suicide Support. Based in Stonehouse, the charity is passionate about making a positive impact in the lives of those bereaved and affected by suicide in Gloucestershire.